25.05.16

To all my beautiful readers,

I received a piece of advice today that really changed my perspective on things. It made me genuinely smile and it's a little life lesson that I thought I'll share with you all.

That lesson is that, it's actually okay for you to care about something or someone as much as you do. Regardless of the circumstances. Here's the thing, we've all faced situations where we've been hurt, we've been battered down and we think things just cannot get any worse. When that happens, we always end up telling ourselves that we care entirely too much and maybe if we didn't, it wouldn't be as painful. We have other people telling us the exact same thing, telling us to stop caring and be strong instead. What I learned is that, strength doesn't come from a person changing themselves or becoming a harsher person, strength comes from them caring about the situation, from being forgiving, from accepting things as they come and facing those difficult situations anyway.

Truth is, people are going to hurt you. Certain situations are going to break you. Life is going to turn you on your head when you least expect it. That doesn't mean you should change yourself though, you can learn from it, grow as a person. But it doesn't mean you should change all the beautiful values and qualities that make you, you. Most importantly, it doesn't mean you should stop caring. It's really okay for things to not go your way, sometimes it may seem unfair, but that doesn't mean what's around the corner isn't going to change your life for the better.

Even though you've faced these difficult circumstances, it hasn't destroyed you. That's because you're better than that. You're stronger than that. It takes a lot of heart to forgive people, to not hold a grudge, to want the best for people that may have hurt you.

You care too much, about the people that are in your life and the people that you loved in the past, and that's okay. It's not your weakness, it's your strength. Do not let your negative experiences turn your heart into stone. Learn from it, let it transform you into a better person. Everything that happens in life are learning opportunities.

So keep being you, keep loving, keep caring, keep being strong.

Here's the advice I received - 'Never stop caring and loving with that big, beautiful heart of yours. Because for the right person, you won't be too much. You will be the perfect amount.' 

Love always,
Neth
xx