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Can't wait for NY in less than two months - Running away to the city that never sleeps.
28.05.16
Ever feel like you've got the weight of the whole world on your shoulder? And you feel like all you want to do is run, far away from all your problems and people that are making you unhappy? Feeling like you're alone in this and everything feels like it's entirely too much?
Believe me, you're not alone in this. But knowing that also doesn't help does it? Do you know what will though? Let me just tell you, everything will be okay. It might not be right this moment, it might not even be tomorrow, or the week after, but it definitely will be okay. Do you know why? Simply because everyday you don't give up and don't give in, you're becoming stronger.
Here's a little fact about life - It sucks sometimes. Really, it does. And we get hurt, and we face situations that break us down. And we think, surely there's no way out of this, surely it can't get better. But those thoughts are just in your own head. The second you control your thoughts and think, 'You know what, I can do this, it's not going to be easy, it might even be the hardest thing I've ever done, but I've got this and I'm going to make it through it', your whole perspective on things will begin to change.
It's up to you to change your 'I can't' to 'I can.' Because you can.
First lesson to getting through a tough time to is to stop feeling sorry about ourselves and blaming everyone else for how things have turned out. We can't change other people, but we can change ourselves for the better. Things that happen to us don't change, but we are the ones solely responsible for controlling how we face a situation.
One thing to remember is that everyone copes with a situation differently. I break down sometimes, I cry. I write, like I am right now, and sometimes I just go for a drive to clear my head. Whatever you do to face a situation is okay. It's okay to be weak, because your strength comes from it. How can you possibly know what strength even is, if you don't let yourself be weak? But weakness is not the same thing as feeling sorry for ourselves though.
What you need to know is that we can't be upset about things that are not within our control. The only thing we can control is ourselves, and that's exactly what we should do. We also can't expect immediate results. Facing a situation and healing is going to take some time. And that's okay. Because like I said, the longer it takes, the tougher you become.
The next time you feel weak, or feeling like the whole world is against you, remember, YOU are not against you. In fact, you are there to pick yourself up.
You are meant for greatness. Do not let setbacks stand in the way of you being amazing! What you're facing right now is nothing but a moment in time, all part of the journey. You're responsible for getting to the destination you want. And when you do, you'll feel incredible, knowing you passed a whole lot of hurdles and challenges to get there. You'll appreciate it a whole lot more, knowing things weren't easy.
Believe me, you've got this. So take a breath, and get ready to face the world. It's been waiting for you to unleash your inner power. It's been waiting for you to make a difference.
Right this moment, you have inside of you, everything you need to do deal with whatever the world can throw at you.
So go out there, and show them what you can do.
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25.05.16
To all my beautiful readers,
I received a piece of advice today that really changed my perspective on things. It made me genuinely smile and it's a little life lesson that I thought I'll share with you all.
That lesson is that, it's actually okay for you to care about something or someone as much as you do. Regardless of the circumstances. Here's the thing, we've all faced situations where we've been hurt, we've been battered down and we think things just cannot get any worse. When that happens, we always end up telling ourselves that we care entirely too much and maybe if we didn't, it wouldn't be as painful. We have other people telling us the exact same thing, telling us to stop caring and be strong instead. What I learned is that, strength doesn't come from a person changing themselves or becoming a harsher person, strength comes from them caring about the situation, from being forgiving, from accepting things as they come and facing those difficult situations anyway.
Truth is, people are going to hurt you. Certain situations are going to break you. Life is going to turn you on your head when you least expect it. That doesn't mean you should change yourself though, you can learn from it, grow as a person. But it doesn't mean you should change all the beautiful values and qualities that make you, you. Most importantly, it doesn't mean you should stop caring. It's really okay for things to not go your way, sometimes it may seem unfair, but that doesn't mean what's around the corner isn't going to change your life for the better.
Even though you've faced these difficult circumstances, it hasn't destroyed you. That's because you're better than that. You're stronger than that. It takes a lot of heart to forgive people, to not hold a grudge, to want the best for people that may have hurt you.
You care too much, about the people that are in your life and the people that you loved in the past, and that's okay. It's not your weakness, it's your strength. Do not let your negative experiences turn your heart into stone. Learn from it, let it transform you into a better person. Everything that happens in life are learning opportunities.
So keep being you, keep loving, keep caring, keep being strong.
Here's the advice I received - 'Never stop caring and loving with that big, beautiful heart of yours. Because for the right person, you won't be too much. You will be the perfect amount.'
Love always,
Neth
xx
I received a piece of advice today that really changed my perspective on things. It made me genuinely smile and it's a little life lesson that I thought I'll share with you all.
That lesson is that, it's actually okay for you to care about something or someone as much as you do. Regardless of the circumstances. Here's the thing, we've all faced situations where we've been hurt, we've been battered down and we think things just cannot get any worse. When that happens, we always end up telling ourselves that we care entirely too much and maybe if we didn't, it wouldn't be as painful. We have other people telling us the exact same thing, telling us to stop caring and be strong instead. What I learned is that, strength doesn't come from a person changing themselves or becoming a harsher person, strength comes from them caring about the situation, from being forgiving, from accepting things as they come and facing those difficult situations anyway.
Truth is, people are going to hurt you. Certain situations are going to break you. Life is going to turn you on your head when you least expect it. That doesn't mean you should change yourself though, you can learn from it, grow as a person. But it doesn't mean you should change all the beautiful values and qualities that make you, you. Most importantly, it doesn't mean you should stop caring. It's really okay for things to not go your way, sometimes it may seem unfair, but that doesn't mean what's around the corner isn't going to change your life for the better.
Even though you've faced these difficult circumstances, it hasn't destroyed you. That's because you're better than that. You're stronger than that. It takes a lot of heart to forgive people, to not hold a grudge, to want the best for people that may have hurt you.
You care too much, about the people that are in your life and the people that you loved in the past, and that's okay. It's not your weakness, it's your strength. Do not let your negative experiences turn your heart into stone. Learn from it, let it transform you into a better person. Everything that happens in life are learning opportunities.
So keep being you, keep loving, keep caring, keep being strong.
Here's the advice I received - 'Never stop caring and loving with that big, beautiful heart of yours. Because for the right person, you won't be too much. You will be the perfect amount.'
Love always,
Neth
xx
THINGS I WANT TO LEARN
Happy Monday to all my beautiful readers! I hope your week is off to a great start!
Winter Blues are hitting me hard this year so I've taken some time from my hectic schedule to reflect on things I can do to cope up with all the stress that I've been facing lately. I've come to the conclusion that letting my mind wonder off doesn't always end well. See, I have this problem that many of you can probably relate to, and that my dear is overthinking. Yep, not a good habit, at all. Don't get me wrong, overthinking also means that I tend to be very detail orientated which is one of my strengths but when I give into my critical mind, I tend to second guess things and that doesn't lead to many positive experiences. In order to combat my little problem, I've decided that I want to distract myself by learning new things! Things that I've always wanted to do but never really got around to doing. Things that will help me be more positive in my everyday life.
So here's a little list of things or habits that I want to take up doing, that you might also consider. Honestly, it's never too late to improve your skills!
MEDITATION
Can't really stress the benefits of this enough. I've decided that I want to start off by spending 10 to 15 minutes of everyday, most likely at night, meditating and collecting my thoughts. This legitimately helps keep your mind from wondering off, but also calms you enough that you get a good night's rest and wake up feeling refreshed for the day! It's such a great technique to keep yourself from facing anxiety and to improve emotional stability. Not only does it lead to increased happiness, but also has amazing physical benefits like increasing your energy levels, improving your immune system and decreasing any muscle pains or headaches, to name a few. So it's a great habit to develop, wins all around really.
COOKING
I'm really excited for this! I've always loved baking, but as embarrassing as it is to admit, I've never really attempted cooking proper dishes. So I'm looking forward to making some delicious (or not so delicious, let's face it, there's going to be some failed attempts) and nutritious meals, from a range of cultures including Sri Lankan! I'll keep you updated on my progress on this, can't wait to make some Instagram worthy dishes!
PHOTOGRAPHY AND GRAPHIC DESIGN
I'm really looking forward to finding my own photography style and also to improve my Photoshop and Illustrator skills. I'm sure it'll take some time but not only is it going to help me with my blogging but it's definitely going to help me strengthen my creative skills as a future Marketer!
HIP-HOP
That's right, super excited to take up dancing again! Except this time I'm trying something different! I love dancing, I love the energy and the way it makes me feel! Such a great way to stay fit and doing it with friends make it that much more fun! I'm not saying I'll be good at this, but I'm saying I'm going to laugh at myself and work at it. Good vibes all around.
DRAWING
I've always loved sketching and drawing, but gave it up because I never really had time for it. But I've decided that I'm going to make time to do this because it's something I love and also because it relaxes me. I'm currently working on drawing some pieces for decoration purposes and I'll definitely share my progress on this with you all too.
There you go lovelies, just a few things that I thought I would make time to do to make myself happier and to improve my skills. Never too late to take up doing something you love. Are there any things that you want to improve or learn? Just remember that even if it's something little, always take the time and opportunity to invest in yourself.
Talk soon!
xx
Neth
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